Thursday, July 20, 2006


Yesterday, an older customer came in to the place where I work and commented “Got a cold sore, huh?” I said “Yes” and carried on with his business, thinking he would get the hint that I don’t discuss personal issues with my clients. Then, he in his infinite wisdom, said “Like those?” and I answered {rather sarcastically} “Absolutely, they’re fabulous.”

Now boys and girls, you all know that I am the nicest, most polite person to serve you. I’ll pause for the laughter.
But seriously, I am getting better at letting things go, not letting people or situations bother me quite as much. But who the hell does he think he is to comment on this, and what’s up with the stupid question? Does he know anyone who does enjoy having a cold sore? And did he really think that he needed to tell me I had a cold sore? I was really tempted to say, “Oh, do I? Thanks for telling me. I didn’t notice the crusty spot RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF MY FACE! Sure glad you came in today and helped me out with that.”

What would his response be if I said “Got body odor, hey? Enjoy having that?” or “Sure have a lot of wrinkles/grey hair/bad breath. Figured I better point that out in case you didn’t notice.”

For your information, other things not to comment on ~ especially with women:

  • Weight gain
  • Acne
  • Grey hair
  • Tiredness/bags under eyes
  • Wrinkles
  • Breast size

Things you should comment on:

  • Weight loss
  • Lipstick on teeth {discretely}
  • Low-flying zippers {discretely}
  • New hairdo {but only if it is complementary}

The thing that amazes me is that any of this is even necessary. Where did common sense, common courtesy and good manners go? I know I’m not the only one to care. Flibirdijibit addresses something similar in her blog posting {read it Got Milk? }

Just be smart out there, boys and girls. You never know which woman has a man at home riding on her last nerve. You could get the blast reserved for him, and sometimes.... it ain't pretty.


flibirdijibit said...

OMG! Why OH why did that seem like a suitable topic between strangers to discuss? Yes. Discussing his wrinkles and bad breath is obviously what he was asking you to do there. These things people say and do make me feel like I have a gangrenous rash growing on my mood....
What is next? Asking people to disrobe so that they might find an unsuitable topic to comment about on our bodies? Sheesh. I am irritated.

Anonymous said...

You know what my response would be....


take care

Anonymous said...

Along those lines, getting REALLY tired of the daily comments about my growing belly. Actual quotes: "You gonna pop tomorrow?" "How many are in there?" "HOLY COW!!!" "I don't think you're going to make it!" Really don't like being made a spectacle. Shouldn't be hard to understand, right?
But to point out someone's cold sore, that is just a few steps over the line! NOBODY wants to talk about that! At least my condition is self-inflicted.